As a guy on the single dating scene for a while, I’ve spent my fair share of time on pretty much every dating site you can name, from Match.com
to Perfectmatch.com
to Yahoo! Personals
, to even some of the smaller online dating sites like Date.com
and JDate.com
. If there’s one piece of internet dating advice I would offer, it would be: make your dating profile as good as you possibly can.
These are some common problems I’ve found:
Seriously, if you really want to meet someone and start dating, take the time to write something good. Some generic response won’t win you a date. Even if you’re on a free online dating site, take the time to fill it out the profile completely.
It’s possible to get some good results from the major dating sites (like Match.com
, Yahoo! Personals
, etc.), the niche sites can really shine… if you fit the niche. Don’t try to fit a square peg in a round hole. If you’re not Jewish, don’t post on JDate.com
. Yes, you might want to start Jewish dating… but these people aren’t looking for non-Jews… that’s why they’re there, and not on a non-specific dating site like
Date.com
. You’ll waste time and money instead of getting out there and actually dating!
When people match profiles with you, depending on their match criteria, they could get hundreds of results back. As they scan down the list, what catches their eye and makes them want to read your online dating profile? A good picture! A funny/unique/direct headline! These are simple steps that half of the single dating profiles I’ve seen don’t take. Don’t have a good photo? Have your brother with the good digital camera make some high-quality shots… or get a professional to do it. Don’t settle for a poor, old, unflattering shot that doesn’t sell the real you. Yes, you want the guy to love you for what’s inside, but he won’t open the present if he doesn’t like the wrapping. And one more thing… don’t post a photo with your ex. Just don’t do it.
These are 3 simple thoughts to help you make the most of any dating site.